A Comment on Comments; the “You’re a Racist” Edition

A Comment on Comments

A Comment on Comments

Last week on the Bitchy Waiter Facebook page, I posted a photo that stirred up some controversy and gave reason for people to accuse me of being racist. I am the first person to admit my own faults: I’m egocentric, my attention span is shorter than a Munchkin who’s doing the limbo, my attitude is piss-poor, my teeth are all jacked up, my hair looks like a Brillo pad… I could go on, but one thing I am not, is a racist.

The photo I posted was that of a group of people at a restaurant, one of whom is waving at the camera. I added a snarky comment about how people who wave their arms and yell at their server will not get the desired effect of having their server move to them more quickly. In fact, most servers will pull out the passive-aggressive card and make that table wait a little bit longer. The photo I used happen to feature four people of Asian descent. Well, many commenters jumped to the conclusion that I was insinuating that this is an “Asian thing” and that I am racist. Lemme tell you something: fuck that. When I do a Google image search looking for photos to turn into memes, I don’t search for Asian people or black people or anything else. I usually go to the search bar and type in “people in restaurant” or “vintage waiter” or “smiling waitress” and when I see a photo that I think I can use, I save it in a folder called BW Images. Bottom line.

Such drama...

Such drama…

After the photo was posted, I went on with my day and it wasn’t until a couple of hours later that I saw it had become a racial issue. I added a comment saying that the image had nothing to do with race and it only stirred up more controversy.

Bryan said: This image has nothing to do with race? Cus every server knows only asians pull that shit. Youre a giant hypocrite if you post a picture like this and then try to act all politically correct when someone mentions the word “chinese”. Seriously, man, Im disappointed in you. If race isnt an issue, why are they ALL asian-looking in the picture?

I’ll tell you, Bryan, the reason they were all Asian was because that was the photo that came up when I Google searched. You can either believe me or not, but their race had nothing to do with the caption and it never even occurred to me that so many idiots would think it did. If you are comfortable saying that “only Asians pull that shit,” then I think you need to look into a mirror and call yourself a hypocrite. Rude behavior is not limited to one group of people and if you think that only Asians can be rude, then you must have some kind of issue yourself that makes you seek out the negative traits of one group while ignoring those same traits in another. Are you telling me that you have never had a group of good ol’ red-blooded “white” Americans flag you down from across the restaurant? You’re lying. I’ve been a server for 25 years and I can honestly say that rudeness is spread out pretty evenly from culture to culture, race to race.

Joseph said: I’m not racist…but, Asians are the worst by far!!!!

Ummm, Joseph, you’re a racist.

Pam said: It’s funny the number of people that see “Asian” or “oriental.” All I see is a rude customer.

That’s all I saw when I used the picture as well. And honestly, we don’t even know if the girl in the photo is waving to her server. Most likely, she isn’t. I’m not going to go so far as to say something like, “I don’t see race,” because that’s a lie. Of course we all notice when someone we are speaking to is a different color than we are. We all see race. It’s a fact of life. But anyone who thought this photo was racist is basing that on their own experiences. Had this been a picture of four white people, no one would have said I was putting them down.

Joshua said: This page is run by a classless rookie or a menstrual woman. Male servers operate at a high standard of excellence…because we aren’t allowed to pms and bitch. No room for slippin’.

I don’t even know what to say to this asshole. I may be classless, but I’m not a rookie or a menstrual woman. How charming you must be to assume that only women have the potential to be emotional. You’re a real catch. If you want me to hook you up, send me your email address because I bet there are a lot of women who read that comment who would love to go on a date with you so you can order their food for them.

Rochelle: Probably wouldn’t need to do this if their server was paying attention to them.
Tyrin said: Maybe you should do your damn job and we wouldn’t have to wave cunt.

Yes, ladies, I get what you’re saying. This photo is referring to those customers that will say they don’t need anything and that everything is fine and then the second the server walks two feet away from the table, they start to wave their arms because they suddenly need another refill. Most people who work in a restaurant will get what I’m talking about here. And by the way, Tyrin? You need a comma between wave and cunt. Otherwise, people might think a “wave cunt” is some new kind of dance fad that involves raising and lowering your vagina at certain intervals. Also, since I’m a guy and not a woman, kindly refer to me as “munt.”

Thanks for the comments and thank you to all of you who defended me. I stand behind the photo as one that demonstrates the rude behavior of restaurant guests. If you choose to think it had something to do with the race of the people in the picture, that’s your issue, not mine.


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