A woman named Blaise posted on Facebook how terribly upsetting it is for her when a server uses the colloquialism “you guys” when referring to her since, you know, she is not a guy. That’s right, everyone, Blaise has a vagina and it is an angry one. She wants servers to call her “ma’am,” which I would be more than happy to do if she was sitting in my section because I always get a kick out of calling a woman “ma’am” when I know she is younger than me. It’s basically a chance for me to call her an old lady right to her face.
Maybe Blaise has a point that some servers are a bit too relaxed and informal, but no server who uses that phrase is trying to insult anyone. Blaise clearly has a stick lodged up her ass because rather than just ask the server to not assume she has a penis, she corrects those waiters. And “not gently either,” she claims. She is probably as rough on those waiters as she is on her maxi-pad. She wants to make sure that servers know they are not her buddy nor her equal and servers need to be put in their place. Put in their place? Where exactly is their place? Stationed in the back corner of the restaurant with their head bowed down waiting until you call upon them? Maybe their “place” is on their hands and knees groveling for your pennies. Or maybe you think their place is in the restroom so they can wipe your ass for you when you’re finished expelling your lunch from Taco Bell.
Blaise, grow up. No server wants to intentionally piss off their table because all that will do is affect the tip and why would they do that? If a server walks by your table and says, “can I get anything else for you guys right now?” all he wants to know is if you need more butter, Ranch dressing or Diet Coke. (He’s just being nice by asking because we all know you do. You do want more butter, Ranch dressing and Diet Coke.)
The relationship between a server and a customer should be one of mutual respect. We are all equals in this world and just because you cobbled together enough money for an all-you-can-eat shrimp special at the Red Lobster does not entitle you to look down on a person who is doing a service for you. You freely admit that your attitude makes you sounds snooty, but I beg to differ. It makes you sound like a miserable person that no server would ever want to serve. You are the kind of person that makes so many people in the service industry question whether or not they even like people anymore. If you are as rude to servers as you imply that you are, the bad service you may receive is probably result of your very own attitude. Remember the golden rule? Treat others as you would want to be treated. If you want your servers to treat you with respect, maybe you should treat them that way too.